Guest Post: The Drama of Leaving Your 20s
This is a guest post from Nicole at I’m Staying Home with My Mom. Be sure to visit her blog today 🙂
I am closing in on my 31st birthday (actually, as you read this, I will have already turned 31). I turned 30 on July 15, 2010. It was TERRIBLE. Ok, so maybe not terrible, but dreaded. I had an ok day. Nothing out of the ordinary: hubby worked, I stayed home with the kiddos, etc. I think we might have went to dinner, but I can’t remember (really memorable, huh?).
I was DREADING turning 30. I would say that to someone and they’d roll their eyes at me and say, “If you are saying that at 30, what are you going to do at 40?”. I don’t see myself having issues with 40…it’s not that I think 30 is old, it’s just not your 20s. I didn’t want to leave my 20s. I felt like I had waited my whole life to have kids, now I was done. I always thought I’d be a nurse, I wasn’t. My hubby was unsure what was going to happen with his job and where he wanted to head in the future for work. It felt like everything was up in the air. All I had dreamt about when I was little to happen in my adult life had happened. I got married, had 4 beautiful children, bought a house, blah, blah, blah. My life was over…and so were my 20s.
I, obviously, knew my life wasn’t over, over…but what were my 30s going to bring? I remember my parents being in their 30s and now I am here. It’s kind of surreal. My 11 year old is starting junior high in the fall. I should be starting junior high. It was definitely time for some new goal setting. I had accomplished all that was important to me, now where do I go?
* First new goal: find a way to make money at home, so I can be with my children. So, I started a home business (awesome opportunity, by the way).
* Second goal: support hubby in whatever he decided to do for work. Pray for guidance, follow where lead.
* Third goal: stop obsessing over ‘being in my 30s’. Done. I am actually sort of enjoying it. I am enjoying not having the ‘baby stuff’ to deal with and haul around. I do have days that I am upset about never being pregnant again or having another infant, but it’s getting easier. I love the fun ages my kids are at and it’s fun to be able to do things that they all have fun doing and experiencing.
* Fourth goal: Take time to be an ‘intentional mom’. Be present and teach. Laugh, have fun, make messes, enjoy the kids. They grow so fast and time is already running away, don’t miss any more happenings worrying about things that don’t matter.
* Fifth goal: Simplify. Get rid of things that don’t matter. Get out of debt, totally. Enjoy life as it comes. It’s never promised so make the most of today. Enjoy sunrises (even if you aren’t a morning person), watch lightening bugs, listen to a forest stream, watch a squirrel. Enjoy God’s wonderful creation.
So many people don’t get to see their 30s, I am going to enjoy mine. I have been very blessed and am thankful for the opportunity to be where I am in my life. Things aren’t always easy, but I have an incredible life.
I did joke about having a ‘mid life crisis’ when I turned 30 and wanted to do something memorable. I have always wanted a tattoo, but never knew what I wanted to be permanently etched on my body. I decided that I would finally do it for my birthday, my greatly dreaded ‘30th’. So, here’s what I did:
I can guarantee that I will never forget my 30th birthday and I’m looking forward to my 31st!
Nicole is a Christian, ‘challenged’ homemaker, wife, and mom to 4 beautiful girls. She also owns a home business and blogs at I’m Staying Home with My Mom.